Couples Therapy
Roughly a quarter of my practice is couples therapy. And one reason people tell me they pick me is because I connect well with men in the relationship. That doesn’t mean I “take the guy’s side.” What it means is that sometimes it helps for a man to hear directly — from another man — that if you want things to change, you’ve got to step it up. You may need to learn your partner’s love language, or communicate in ways that don’t come naturally, if you want your own needs met. That’s not bias, that’s just rapport.
So what does couples work actually look like? Most of the time, we start with communication — learning how to talk and listen differently than you have before. Once those basics are in place, the work deepens: getting to know each other again, rebuilding connection, and often rediscovering how to fall in love with your partner.
Practical support for communication, connection, and conflict resolution.
What couples work looks like
Young couples considering marriage and wanting to build healthy foundations
Couples together 5–6 years, unsure whether to commit or move forward
Parents of young kids adjusting to the massive changes family life brings
Couples with teens or adult children who’ve neglected the marriage for years
Empty nest couples rediscovering who they are as partners
Couples navigating long-distance or career changes that strain the relationship
Common Themes
Common themes always surface — conflict around kids, sex, money, and how you spend your time together. I don’t shy away from these topics. Whether it’s concrete solutions to financial stress, navigating intimacy and sexual dynamics (including challenges like ED or past trauma), or negotiating parenting differences, couples therapy gives you a space to address these issues openly and without judgment.
The work isn't always easy
The work isn’t always easy. Each partner is on their own growth journey while trying to sync with the growth of their relationship. Sometimes couples come in hoping to save their marriage, other times they’re fairly sure it’s over. That’s okay too — therapy can help you separate with respect, learning what you need to carry forward.
What You’ll Gain in Couples Therapy
Communication tools that actually work in conflict
Strategies for building consensus instead of resentment
A safe space to address intimacy, parenting, and finances directly
Support in repairing trust and recovering after crises
Clarity about whether to rebuild or part ways intentionally
Renewed appreciation for your partner and the strengths in your relationship
Whatever your situation, couples therapy gives you a process that is useful, practical, and oriented toward growth.